Author of the Harry Potter series J. K. Rowling revealed in an interview that the inspiration for the Dementors came from her bout with depression. In my mind a Dementor was a metaphor for all the stupid, embarrassing things we’ve all done and and that continue to haunt us (usually at 3:00 a.m.)
More than a few times I’ve wishes I could go back and change what I said, what I did, what I should have done but didn’t.
In my previous post I wrote about the possible origins of the fear of rejection. According to author and historian Steven Pressfield, “Evolution has programmed us to feel rejection in our guts. This is how the tribe enforced obedience, by wielding the threat of expulsion. Fear of rejection isn’t just psychological; it’s biological. It’s in our cells.”
That got me wondering: Could our (I presume) universal sense of being haunted by our pasts be related in some way to the fear of rejection? And if it is, isn’t it time we get over it?
There’s a research thesis in here somewhere but I’ll leave that task to someone with a lot more energy and time than I have. Meanwhile, let’s pull up our big girl pants, go out there, and try something new. What’s the worst that can happen? As long as it’s not illegal, chances are good that the tribe members will not expel us from the tribe. And if they do, well…it probably wasn’t the right tribe in the first place.
“Reflections” mixed media on paper